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Here in Mazatlan, Mexico, there"s a broad
walkway that runs for miles along the
coastline. This malecon features
a mostly-tiled sidewalk with a low
concrete wall separating it from the
sandy beach. Dotted with food stalls, sculptures,
restaurants and even cliff divers, it"s the
preferred locale for joggers, lovers,
dog-walkers, fishermen, families,
roller-bladers and those who enjoy
spectacular sunsets. I love to walk the malecon and
see the different ways people use and
enjoy it. Recently, as I was strolling
along late in the afternoon, I spotted
a group of skateboarders. Now, some might have an immediate
negative reaction to the idea that
skateboarders might be using what
is intended as a public walkway. Not me. You see, a few years ago,
my husband and I owned a retail
store that catered to skateboarders
and snowboarders. As a result, we
heard plenty of complaints from both
local businesspeople and the kids
they chased from in front of their
storefronts. We thought, "Let"s
build a skatepark so they"ll have
a place to skateboard." Many city meetings later, we finally
got permission to pour a large
glass-smooth concrete slab in a
local park and provide a variety
of wooden ramps to accommodate
different styles and levels. I"ll never forget the day the park
opened--there were at least 50
skaters of all ages zipping past each
other, and despite our fears that
someone could get hurt (and yes,
sue us), there wasn"t a single
mishap on that day or any of the
others that followed. In fact, that concrete slab was so
packed on a regular basis that the city
decided a few years later to upgrade
our hard-won $10,000 square by
developing a state-of-the-art park
with a price tag of nearly half a million
dollars. I have a great deal of affection and
admiration for skateboarders. Their
art requires a tremendous amount of
courage and concentration. I challenge
anyone to attempt (repeatedly) the
ways in which skateboarders defy gravity
with such grace. Sure, there are those
who behave badly, but I know firsthand
that the majority are courteous athletes
who just want to practice their sport. So, I was pleased to see that these
particular skateboarders, in their black
Korn and Sepultura t-shirts, were being
mindful of those who might be intimidated
or annoyed by their skateboarding on the
malecon. They kept to one side, looked both ways
before attempting a move, and always
gave children and older people a wide
berth. But as I stopped to watch the descending
sun, I witnessed a moving and humorous
sight. Sitting side-by-side, facing the
glorious sky, there were two
very distinct groups: black-clad
skateboarders and nuns in full white
habits. Both were silent. Both were focused on
the golden orb sinking into the Pacific.
Both were fully engaged in the moment. When the sun was no longer visible, the
nuns got up to continue their walk. The
skateboarders respectfully ushered them
on their way and then, after checking for
pedestrians, resumed their activities. This was such a simple and beautiful
example of sharing space peacefully. It
illustrated--in black and white--the fact
that we, as humans, have more that
connects than separates us from each
other. Whether we"re dressed in white or black,
whether our passion requires prayer or
kickflips, we share an innate recognition
of the majesty of nature and we are
inspired by moments of full-on presence. By sharing our sidewalks and sunsets,
we have an opportunity to pay attention
to those around us and become mindful
of our similarities as well as our
differences. Start seeing how black and white can
go together beautifully. Maya Talisman Frost has taught thousands of people how to pay attention. Her playful, eyes-wide-open approach to mindfulness has been featured in over 150 publications worldwide, ranging from Family Circle to Penthouse. She publishes the Friday Mind Massage, a weekly ezine with subscribers in over 100 countries. To read her free tips and tricks for practical awareness, visit
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